A Key to Healing – Rather Than Blaming A Disease, Take Responsibility and Make Changes

I have heard this type of thing time after time, “Such and such disease makes you weak.”

Wrong. There is no such thing as such and such disease making a person weak, or numb, or tired, or shaking.

Nope.

So what’s doing it then? Why are people weak, or numb, or tired, or shaking, or whatever?

They and the people around them are making things that way, that’s why.

So a key concept in healing is getting to feeling responsible, and in control, of what is going on with your health.

For instance, in one case I dealt with, a guy diagnosed with als was talking about biting his tongue. He thought that als somehow makes a person bite his tongue. He felt out of control.

So I suggested he look at it differently, that rather than als making him bite his tongue that actually he himself was somehow making him bite his tongue. That put things into a whole different perspective. Now he felt much more in control and as if he could find a way to solve the problem.

Another one I have heard is that multiple sclerosis makes a person weak. Nah. Multiple sclerosis is not doing anything. Multiple sclerosis can’t do anything. Why? Because multiple sclerosis is just a name someone made up. What makes a person weak is people’s making choices that result in a person’s immune system attacking the person’s nervous system. Then the nerves don’t transmit signals and the person feels weak.

Diabetes does not make it difficult to utilize sugar. People make it difficult for themselves to use sugar.

Parkinson’s disease does not make people shaky. They make themselves shaky, by stressing themselves out and repressing emotions and doing other things that cause their systems to break down.

Adhd does not make it difficult to focus.

Alzheimer’s does not cause memory loss and dementia.

Asthma does not make breathing difficult.

Whatever a person has going on, the key thing to realize is that it is just a logical consequence of ways of living and choices the person is making.

Then it is clear what needs to be done to make things better.

If you want to be stronger, figure out how to get stronger. If you want to stop biting your tongue, figure out why you are doing it and make some changes. If you are getting shaky or are having trouble remembering things or if your cholesterol level is sky high, just get to work making changes that will make you healthier.

It was you, with the help of others, doing it all along, and it is you who can solve the problem.

Knowing Better and Still Not Doing It – “That’s the sickness.”

A week or two ago I called a friend, Diego, to see how things were going with his blood pressure. He had had really, really high blood pressure, so high that a doctor seemed concerned about even letting him walk out of the office. Diego also had come up with a pretty solid plan for solving the problem, one involving things like diet changes, weight loss, exercise and changing the way he handles life issues.

Hey. That sounded like a great idea for a story, maybe called “My Friend Diego Solves Insanely High Blood Pressure. Here’s How.”

So before writing it I wanted to confirm that he had gotten the job done.

“It is lower.”  He told me.

So it was fixed, solved, the pressure in some kind of normal or healthy range?

“No.”

I told him about my story idea and he told me that I could just wait, maybe give him another month and all would be well and I could write about it. He said he was psyched, that the idea of the story was even a good incentive for him to get on with it.

So I called him today to see how our little project was going.

The answer? No progress.

“That’s the sickness” he said. Then he noted the similarity to what his mother had done, when she had basically chosen to die rather than taking advantage of healing resources he had provided for her, and he suggested that instead of writing about his success I should write about his lack of it. “That’s the sickness.”

Not a bad idea. What he said is so right on, and what he has going on is so common. It’s a level of sickness, one in which a person knows basically how to solve a problem and for some reason, inertia, unconscious issues, or whatever, leaves the problem unsolved.

Me personally, I don’t get it. I mean, sure I get it. I understand psychology and habits and things like that. Still, I don’t get it.

For one thing, being sick can be a total drag. In Diego’s case, for instance, he has real reason to be concerned about the consequences of continuing to live with what is still rather high blood pressure.

For another, solving things can be so straightforward. Losing that eighty pounds of extra weight, for instance, seems simple. Just eat less than you burn.

So between one thing and another, staying sick, especially when one has at hand an actual plan for getting healthy, seems insane to me.

Solving back problems, lowering bad cholesterol, solving diabetes, solving cancer, resolving relationship issues, any kind of thing, a person can do it, if the person just gets through the knowing what to do level to the actually doing it level.

Sickness Addiction, Maybe the Worst Addiction of All

A few years ago, at the beginning of a summer, I started working with someone who had been diagnosed with als and was using a motorized wheelchair to get around for the most part. We put some serious energy into getting her healthier, and toward the end of the summer she told me she had good news for me. She had gotten up from that wheelchair and walked around for, get this, an hour straight. Oh how much better she felt.

That was pretty much the last I heard from her.

Huh? Wasn’t she pleased? You would think she would be excited to keep going and get even healthier.

While I was surprised at the time, I am no longer perplexed by things like this. I know the deal. Sickness addiction put her right back in that chair and is keeping her there.

What do I mean?

Check this out. It turns out that right about that time, a group of people in her community had come together to give her, yep give her, a house, renovated to accommodate a wheelchair. Wow. What if she no longer needed the wheelchair? How would that have all worked out?

She also has projects going on, some of which are closely related to her being sick. What if she were no longer sick? What would happen to her bucket list of things to do before she died? What would happen with all the other things that to some degree revolve around her being sick.

So she was stuck sick, and still is, as far as I am aware.

I have seen this type of thing countless times and it is a huge theme in healing and has been a huge surprise for me.

When I got into helping people heal, I figured some people would be skeptical and others, such as people with medical degrees, would feel threatened by it. I was not ready for how stuck people are being sick. That’s maybe the biggest obstacle to healing of all. Sickness is so deeply integrated into people’s lifestyles, into their images of themselves, into everything they have going on, that getting healthy is the last thing they are ready to do.

Being sick can catalyze improvement in people’s lives, such as improving relationships with family members or changing for the better what they find worth focusing on. People who are ill get involved in causes and do other things they never did when they were healthier. People who are sick even get called heroes, just because they stay positive in the face of it all. For these and other reasons, being sick can have a very powerful allure.

Yes they march for cures, and speak before congress, and donate to research, and volunteer for clinical trials, and travel far to get treatment not available locally. Yes, they and their families are truly devastated by the consequences of illness.

Still, when you get right down to it, what’s really keeping people sick, when in reality their are plenty of ways available for them to get healthy, is their own addiction to sickness and all that comes with it. Sure, using drugs can harm your body. Sure, smoking has its damaging effects. Sure, gambling can be horrible on your finances and blood pressure. Still, the addiction that does the most to make and keep people sick is addiction to sickness itself.

The War On Drugs, A Non Healing Approach That Disrespects The Citizens It Supposedly Protects

Back when I was in high school, a friend told me that marijuana is illegal because if it were not, everyone would sit around smoking it and everything would fall apart.

Let’s face it. The truth is that marijuana is available to pretty much anyone who wants some and everyone is not sitting around smoking it. So much for that premise of the so called war on drugs.

Making a new law is never really a healing approach anyway. Laws involve the use of force to repress the ills of society without really healing things.

Beyond that, the more I consider the war on drugs, the more I have realized that what it really is mostly is disrespectful. I mean what those who advocate for the war on drugs are really saying is that the people of the United States, professionals, parents, children, educators, you name it, are too pathetic to take care of themselves. Yup. Supposedly, if we let those big bad Mexicans, Colombians and whomever else bring drugs into this country, the poor, pathetic, weak minded Americans are gonna use those drugs, and so someone has to stop those drugs from being available in the first place.

It’s all so lame, it costs a bundle, it fills jails and it is so unnecessary and misguided.

How about just educating people. How about just actually taking time to raise children with enough sense to make healthy choices. How about instead of acting like a bunch of heroes for making small dents in the steady stream of drugs, if people must do anything, they spend their time encouraging people to step up and take care of themselves.

In a nation of people with common sense, with some decent education, in a nation with a healthy culture, the fields could be full of coca, poppies and marijuana, the streets could be paved with drugs, and there would not be any problems.

The ALS “False Hope” Thing – One Spouse’s Strong Opinion

Soon after I started working with people to help them solve als, I did a presentation to the care team at a nearby ALS Association Chapter.

I told them about what I have going on and how it is all positive and has essentially no negative side effects and costs little to implement. So really, giving it a shot would be a no brainer.

While some of them were interested, the consensus was that they were rather reluctant to say anything about it to people experiencing als because, among other things, they were concerned about giving people “false hope”.

Since then I have heard this false hope thing repeated over and over.

What is this thing with false hope? I mean it seems something along the lines of disrespectful to withhold information from people, as if they are so weak and pathetic that they cannot handle ideas or make decisions for themselves. Beyond that, the message people are given, the story about als being somehow so called “100% fatal” is not even correct.

I suspect this same false hope thing goes on with problems other than als and, while maybe people feel that they are helping somehow, it can go too far and often tends to be just wrong.

The following are excerpts from an email message I received from someone whose spouse has been diagnosed with als and who has experienced the no “false hope” approach. Her frank response to it hammers the point home rather well.

I keep hearing people defending the doctors and it amazes me.
I hear over and over the doctors don’t want to give us FALSE hopes.
In our situation ANY hope is welcome.
To tell us there is NO hope is irresponsible!!

IT’s proven that positive thinking improves health, mentally, emotionally and physically.
Spontaneous remissions happen.  They don’t tell us that.
To purposely repeatedly plunge us into despair is torture and torture is illegal.

Massage is proven to help with discomfort, increases circulation and promotes healing but they don’t provide anything but a PT to show you how to stretch.

There are people alive! that have had ALS for years that say they have improved their health through holistic means.

What say you and I go kick some Doctor booty – (in a healing loving fashion) and sue their pants off?

By not at least presenting the information the holistic world offers they are promoting a death sentence.  They are lying to us!!!  There by causing emotional distress and possibly unnecessary horrible death.

They should be held responsible for that.

The way the doctors present the diagnosis is horrific!!  It took months for me to get my head back into living instead of dreading dying and I am in the HEALING World.”

“The anti depressants he started on made him so tired he couldn’t move.

They tell you eat all the carbs you want…again making any healthy person sick.

People keep telling me I don’t have time to fight this battle but I hate to think of all the other people who don’t have the mind set or support or education we have.

Enough said.

Scent to the Emergency Room – The Perils of Air Freshener and Other Masking Approaches

What I saw happen last week was a classic case of non healing approaches creating a cascading downhill path to a crash.

It started off pretty simply, with a woman whose house had air quality issues, including those caused by someone’s smoking. She also had some other stressful things going on in her life.

So what did she do? Did she heal the situation? Did she do something about the underlying issues?

Oh no.

She whipped out a can of air freshener, and blasted away, a classic example using of a masking approach, one which covers up problems without really solving them.

“good for me” she said.

Maybe.

Now with the air quality issues buried under a haze of probably toxic chemicals made to smell good and other issues still causing stress in her life, sure enough the woman developed a heavy cough, which kept her up at night.

Did she react by dealing with the underlying issues and healing the situation? To a degree she actually did. She started working to get some of the stress and air quality issues dealt with.

At the same time she hurried down to the local pharmacy to pick up some medication. Once again she was choosing a masking approach.

So,

At one point after taking the medication, she lost her footing somehow and somehow was not even able to break her fall.

Slam, she planted her face on the floor, hard, possibly hard enough to crack her skull, and that’s why she decided to go the the emergency room.

The whole thing seemed connected. Was it the lack of sleep, or an effect of the medication or what that had caused her to fall in a way that she had not fallen in years.

However exactly it worked, it seems clear that masking issues rather than resolving them once again led to a crash as it so often does.

ALS and the Military – The Higher Incidence Explained

While many are aware that there is a significantly higher incidence of als in people who have served in the military, few are aware of why. The reasons for the higher incidence are not all that complicated though, and by understanding the underpinnings of als and seeing how military service fits into the picture, one can readily grasp how the higher incidence comes about.

Als is a created situation, one where a person consciously and unconsciously makes choices based upon beliefs colored by life experiences and progresses toward a point where the intentions and consequences of those choices come together to create a cascading neurodegeneration. The way the military fits into this is that joining the military can be one of those als creating choices. Joining the military fits into the type of belief system common among people who develop als, it involves a person’s experiencing things which can reinforce the type of conception of reality that typically underlies the creation of als, it involves experiences which themselves can directly contribute to neurodegeneration and it has other psychological effects which can underlie the creation of als in multiple ways.

So, the first thing that comes to bear here is also maybe the most important factor, and it’s not even really about anything that happens in the military. It’s all the about the matchup between the military and what could be called the typical als profile.

Being a problem with psychological, emotional and spiritual underpinnings, als is connected with certain types of personal traits. People who experience als often have experienced some significant emotional trauma during childhood. They often see the world as a place with good guys and bad guys. They tend to be stressed out people seeking to do things they perceive as right while overworking themselves in order to prove themselves, and they tend to deal with life problems by disconnecting or escaping. So what do traumatized, stressed out people who want to do the right thing, prove themselves and escape do? They often join the military as an escape to a venue that seems to involve opportunities to prove themselves by dealing with bad guys and where they can continue to live the type of stressful lives to which they are accustomed. It’s a pretty natural fit.

So that’s a big part of why there is a higher incidence of als in people who have been involved in the military. The lives of people who are on the road to als have a higher than average tendency to include military service.

But that’s not the whole story. Once these people who already were somewhat set up to create als join the military, more happens to make it even more likely that they will experience als.

One of the things that happens is that the experience of military service can reinforce the belief system that already had them headed to als. Believe in a world full of good guys and bad guys? So do many in the military. So your conception will be confirmed by others around you. Been traumatized to the point where you tend to disconnect to deal with things? In the military one can experience even more trauma and so feel even more compelled to disconnect to survive. Have the idea that the world is a stressful place where it is important to prove one’s self? The experience of military service is one that can confirm that conception of things.

So through military service, people who already had a conception of things that would underlie making the types of choices that lead to als can become even more convinced that that conception is accurate. So during and after serving in the military, they will have even more reason to make the types of choices that underlie the creation of als.

Beyond the indirect effect of reinforcing an als creating belief system, military service tends to involve things which can directly contribute to the creation of als.

For one thing, part of what causes als is physical trauma to the system and military service can involve lots of that. People who are in the military get multiple vaccinations, are exposed to all kinds of substances which tend to create harm to their bodies and they experience various kinds other kinds of physical trauma. Even after leaving the military, this physical trauma can continue if some of the substances remain in the person’s system and continue to be involved in the creation of physical problems.

Beyond the physical trauma, people in the military often experience extreme emotional trauma which, if left unhealed, adds to internal stress in some cumulative way.

So here we have these stressed out people who were already traumatized before joining the military and then their choices, including their following their desires to escape, lead them to more trauma and more stress.

Then there is something else.

As I mentioned, part of the reason they join the military is to have opportunities to somehow prove themselves, and on some level maybe some of them accomplish that. At the same time, however, these people who see the world as full of good guys and bad guys have signed up to be part of something that causes death and destruction and on some level, maybe unconsciously, they can become very conflicted. They wonder if they who have been handling weapons and causing destruction are themselves actually bad guys and they can consciously or unconsciously hate themselves for what they have done while in the military. This self hatred can manifest as and contribute to the creation of disease.

A typical thing that happens in people who have served in the military, or on police forces, is that the als degeneration starts in their hands, the hands that held and operated weapons. What has happened is that their inner conflicts, their self hatred, their desires to protect the world from themselves, manifest as illness in a form that renders them incapable of doing these things any more.

Some people start to experience the als neurodegeneration during or soon after military service. In these cases the direct effects of military service, effects such as physical trauma, are probably more significant in the creation of the problem.

For others the neurodegeneration starts long after they have left the military. In these cases, military service is more just one of a cumulative set of  experiences and choices that add up to the creation of als.

So that’s how it works. People who were already set up with ideas and ways that would likely lead to them experience als take themselves further in that direction by joining the military and further traumatizing themselves, affirming the als creating world view and adding to the accumulation of factors and patterns that eventually add up to als.

Getting Beyond the Genes and Disease Myth to Attain Wellness

(This piece is a version of one originally written as part of a post called “Inviting Controversy” on the blog, Making Connections.)

It’s going on all the time, talk about genes and the problems that they supposedly cause and how once a certain gene is discovered and somehow changed, a problem involving a disease may be solved.

The ethics and value of genetic testing are debated and people who carry certain genes live concerned that one day they will experience a particular disease. People who do actually experience disease often feel that they are at the mercy of something they can’t do much about beyond waiting and hoping for development of medical methods that will somehow stop their genes’ hurting them.

There’s just one thing.

Genes do not really cause disease.

Now I can just hear people saying something along the lines of, “Hey. I thought research shows that genes cause disease.”

Actually if you look carefully, you will find that that is not exactly the case.

What people researching genes and disease have found is that some people who carry certain genes sometimes experience certain forms of disease.

More significantly, while genes can be seen to be involved in the creation of problems, genes are not really the underlying cause of the problems. That difference, between being involved and being the cause, is a huge one.

To wrap your mind around this better, it may help you to consider that many different types of cells in a person’s body carry essentially the same genes. Liver cells carry the same genes as brain cells. Blood cells have the same DNA as skin cells. All these cells are different even though they carry the same genetic code. So, while genes are involved in the creation of all these various types of cells, clearly the presence of certain genes is not enough to determine what goes on.

You might point to this to demonstrate that genes cause disease. “Many of my relatives experienced the same form of disease through generation after generation.” Wait though. Do many of your relatives speak the same language? Have many of them in successive generations eaten with a fork? Are these things genetic too? The fact that something runs in a family does not have to mean that genes cause it.

So what does cause disease?

What underlies the creation of disease is the way people operate. Operate one way and you experience one form of disease. Operate another way and you experience another form. Operate another way and you experience better health, and this, ways of operating and living, is the key disease creating thing that gets passed down through generations, or not.

Yes, the upshot of all this is that, by, instead of continuing a family pattern of operating in ways that create disease, operating in ways that create health, anyone can experience wellness.

I’ll use myself as an example. On both sides of my family, people have experienced problems diagnosed as Parkinson’s disease. Am I worried that I may experience that type of thing as well? Not really. I don’t operate as those people did. Another thing that runs in my family is hair loss. Am I losing my hair? Not any more. I changed the way I was operating and my hairline is now moving forward rather than backward. Allergies, solved. Prostate cancer, doubt it. Als, no chance. All these things that others in my family have experienced or are experiencing are not things I am experiencing or likely will.

There is plenty of information available on how disease is created and how to create wellness instead, including my work, the work of Gabor Mate, and the work of people involved in the field of functional medicine such as Dean Ornish. Also, by looking carefully and analytically, you can find the logic to these things yourself. So if you really want to experience wellness, rather than continue a family tradition of disease, my suggestion is that you get to work, learn how this all works and see just how healthy a life you can create.

Laws, Another Non Healing Approach Making Us All Sick

I wrote a version of this as part of an email to someone who is working with me and feel that it is something everyone should be aware of . So here it is.

When people are sick, they often run straight to the pharmacy. They really don’t know what else to do or even consider that maybe there is a better way.

When societal problems crop up, there is a parallel problem. People make new laws. They really don’t know what else to do or even consider that maybe there is a better way.

For instance, a couple of years ago in New York City, a guy was hanging out under some steps looking up women’s skirts. A person in government said that it was frustrating to him that there was nothing they could arrest the guy for.

Are those the only choices we have, either have him continue or arrest him? Yikes.

How about just politely suggesting he get a new hobby? How about realizing that it is really not such a big deal? How about realizing that arresting that guy is going to cost a lot, solve little and create new problems?

Whenever a person faces the fact that he may suffer negative consequences imposed by government, he may change his behavior to avoid the consequences. All the same, the desire to continue the behavior remains. Conflict has been created. Information has been lost as the person is now hiding what he really feels like doing.

So laws perpetuate problems, by covering them up without really solving things, just as medication does.

The most famous law making fiasco is Prohibition. The thing people don’t realize is that every situation involving a restrictive law is a mini version of that.

I was at a library and some kids were outside in the park playing in some dirt and maybe throwing it around. One person suggested that maybe someone should call the police. Wow. What has happened to our society that even kids playing in the dirt are subject to that kind of response? People even want to make federal laws against bullying. What ever happened to parents sitting down and solving a problem?

Laws are an addictive and destructive form of medication and we in the United States live in a law happy nation where for every problem there is some misguided soul advocating for the creation of another law.

Just as people need to learn to function without medication, we need to learn to live without laws or at least in a new way where laws are something different from what they represent now. There are many better ways of handling problems and by learning to use them we will all become better off.

Let’s Face It. Western Medicine is Way Off Track.

A while ago, a person working with me told me that a doctor had recommended knee replacement surgery. Her knees were not working so well and new knees would be just the ticket. Just one thing. She was way overweight, so overweight that she was worried about him succeeding in dealing with all the fat when performing the surgery. Uh, do ya think maybe before she had her living knees replaced with prosthetics that it might be a good idea to see if the living ones worked better once she lost some weight? Seems rather obvious that that would be a good question and yet somehow it was totally ignored.

Another crazy case I saw involved a person who had gotten his weight up so high that he had not gotten out of bed for years. A doctor recommended surgically altering his digestive tract to help him lose weight. Let me get this straight, a guy who cannot even get out of bed needs surgery to lose weight? Uh, how about if his parents were to just stop supplying him with so much food. There must be some serious psychological issues in that household and using surgery to lose weight just perpetuates the whole thing by changing one factor without dealing with those issues.

This type of slashing at one thing while ignoring huge parts of the picture madness pervades the medical system and the people who use it and the whole system is way off track.

It figures that Barack Obama, a person who only recently quit smoking, somehow jammed the support of this insanity down all of our throats. He is clueless about what it takes to be healthy and now laws have been passed to get everyone else to participate in the same nonsensical system he has bought into.

Lately I have been working with people experiencing the neurodegenerative problem called als. Western medicine has been typically clueless here too. Anyone with two eyes can see that the reason these people are sick is that they have been living in ways that end up killing them. The only thing that is really going to change this for them is their changing the ways they are living. What’s western medicine’s answer to als? They are looking for a medical cure, by doing things like torturing mice by the thousands. Holy moly. Are you serious? The western medicine concept of als is that it is kind of random, that for some reason things in a person’s body sort of spontaneously go haywire. Gimme a break folks. Als is not random and you will never ever solve it as long as you cling to that illusion.

This spontaneous development conception of disease seems to be the common theme with western medicine, one that involves the premise that people have little control over what goes on in their bodies, even in their minds, and that things go wrong on their own and can only be solved by somehow adding ingredients to the mix, pills, surgery, and lately bits of chopped up babies even. None of this is correct and none of it will ever really work. Why? Because none of these things really are random and out of people’s control. People whose bodies fall apart on them are living in ways to make that happen. People whose minds are split, who have difficulty functioning socially or who have other mentally focused issues have created those problems as well. What this means is that basically you can throw all the medication, surgery or bits of babies you want at these problems and they are going to persist as long as the people keep doing what they are doing and living the way they are living.

Kids will keep having learning problems, digestive problems and immune system problems as long as they are stressed out, eat junky food and have parents and teachers that use little common sense in working with them. Drugs are not going to help and using western medicine style medicine is just making things worse for them.

People will keep developing health issues as long as they keep living in basically unhealthy ways. Whether they have been diagnosed with anorexia, autism, Parkinson’s disease, heart disease or dementia, their genes and biology are not the problems. Their ideas and lifestyles are the problems, and western medicine’s coming up with all kinds of nutty genetic and biological theories as to why they are sick is not helping at all.

Until people in medicine see the basic errors they have made, that the foundation of all they do is unsound, they will continue to miss huge parts of the picture and to look for cures for things that neither require cures nor can be cured medically, and as a group in all fields they will continue to be way off track and perpetuate misery. That’s just the way it is.

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